I’ve got a newsflash for all of you married, commitment-honoring men out there - “Monogomy [is] a theory/fantasy attained solely by men without options and even less self-confidence.” I know this probably comes as a shock to you. But at least we can finally put to bed that terrible lie about monogomy being perhaps the largest unspoken statement of love that you can make to another human being. Instead, it turns out you’re just a loser who can’t pull more ass.
Yet again, more self-help disguised as bad relationship advice, this time from a reality TV star. Patti Stranger, author of “Become Your Own Matchmaker” and star of Bravo TV’s “The Millionaire Matchmaker,” wrote the following “Three C’s of Matchmaking.” Now before I get into predictably making fun of it, regardless of it’s merit, let me first say that a “set of C’s” (I’m talking about boobs!) should be the fourth C in matchmaking - am I right?! The same format is as usual - their version, followed by my response.
You want to know how to get over a break-up? It’s easy - in fact, you can shut down your browser after the next sentence if you’d like, because it’s not a real “deep” solution - Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
I came across a list of 9 Tips for Flirting from the dating editor of Marie Claire, another women’s magazine that promises, on a monthly basis, 75 ways to start a small fire in your panties, among other things. Will these tips help you with flirting? Probably not. Which is why I’ve included my list, which is a lot more real and helpful. Here’s their list, along with mine.
*If you’re having a case of deja vu, thinking that you’ve seen this post before, you have. Sort of. Except now it’s more refined and polished, like me, as I age like fine wine.*
As the title of this post suggests, I believe wholeheartedly that there is no such thing as “Just Friends” between guys and girls. And yes, I do mean that. I’m not saying friendships between guys and girls don’t exist; they do. But not for the sake of friendship. They exist because one of the people involved is more attracted than the other. And the person who feels a stronger attraction for the other will undoubtedly be the catalyst to the “friendship” growing and moving forward.
I know, it sounds like an outlandish thing to say. No 24-year-old girls in a city like Miami? But what I actually mean is that there are no 24-year-old girls for me in Miami. The females that I meet are either perpetually 21 (by nature of my job) or 28 and above. The 21-year-olds that I meet are precocious enough, yet not quite prepared to leave college behind (or move out of their parents’ house). The 28-year-olds that I meet are probably only interested in me because I represent the loads of potential that they squandered away on a quarter-life crisis filled with booze and regret-filled sexual escapades. They don’t actually want me; they just want to identify with me.
Last week, I wrote a blog about waiting for “the spark” before you jump into a relationship. Today I want to take another, different stance on this subject. Here’s what I’m getting at. I felt a tremendous spark in the last relationship that I was in. Now nearly a year after its end, I admit that it may have been out of balance and filled with unrealistic expectations - but there was a major spark nonetheless (at least on my end).
When writing about relationships, I usually give advice. Yes, the single guy actually thinks that he can give relationship advice. Today, though, my post is going to be filled with more questions than answers. It’s about defining “dating” and what rules, if any, apply in dating.
When I re-started http://www.iamdavidberry.com after a one-month hiatus, I said that there would be a few changes. One of those changes is how I will write about relationships. This time around I’d like to write about relationship issues that do more than scratch the surface.
Here’s what I’ve learned (and am still learning):
That everyone, regardless of where they’re at in life, is perpetually searching for a pure, authentic love from another human being. Of course, it always manifests itself in different ways - but the point is that everyone is always looking for it.
I know this is a huge leap in assumption, but I’d argue that clubs and bars would fall flat on their face if people one day decided they didn’t want to find love any longer. When people go to these places, engaging in buzz-induced conversations and drunken makeout sessions, they’re essentially trying to get a “quick fix” of love, or something that looks and smells like it, even if it’s only for a fleeting moment or two.
On the other side of the spectrum are the purists - the hopeless romantics. They’d rather take a more calculated approach to finding love and don’t really engage members of the opposite sex in fleeting moments of affection - instead, they’re guarded with their hearts and only date with a purpose.