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Mandy says: Last week I was watching the TODAY show (like a fucking soccer mom, shut up), and a woman named Lori Gottlieb came on to talk about why it’s okay to settle for “Mr. Good Enough.” Now, I’m not too sure how I feel about this. Settling for someone who is “good enough” might be an easy way to escape loneliness for ugly, middle-aged people with beer bellies, but it’s not acceptable for everyone else. I have a lot of extremely good looking, intelligent, funny, caring friends who seem so desperate to be loved that they are settling for these so-so people and calling it a day.

But it shouldn’t be like that! The way I see it is that you have your whole life to find the right person for you. And while I understand that there is no such thing as the “perfect” person out there, we shouldn’t just commit with someone because they are “good enough.” What everyone seems to forget is that when you settle for less than what you truly want and need, you’re selling yourself short. And how the hell can you be happy with that?

It seems like everyone is in a rush these days; in a rush to fall in love and be married and poop with the door open. Well I say to hell with that! Let’s have our fun before our balls start wrinkling and our vaginas start drooping. What do you think David?

David says: I agree 100%.  I don’t think people should settle, either.  Truth be told, I’d rather be unmarried until I’m 40 than headed for a divorce at 35 because I can’t stand the bitch I got married to.  The thing is, though, how often do people openly come out and say “yeah, I settled”? Almost never.

That’s because their self esteem is too low, or their own self awareness is so off base that they don’t realize they’re settling.  So for every person out there holding out hope for the one that really makes a difference, there are 99 others who are giving a guy or girl way too much credit for something like swallowing or washing their own ass.

I suppose that if people were just happier with themselves, then they wouldn’t be so hell-bent on finding the perfect partner.  In reality, the person you end up with shouldn’t “complete” you.  They should add to something that’s already great - and that’s you. (Gay, I know).

Mandy says: David, you’re right! For example, you don’t complete me, you just add to how already great I am! Now I do think that there are some instances when it is okay to settle. Say, when you’ve had quite the long dry spell and the weird guy who lives nearby who is always hitting on you just so happens to give you one too many beers and then one thing leads to another and suddenly he looks like David Beckham and you start kissing and he’s actually kinda good and you get turned on and you wind up spending a hardly satisfying night and then all your friends make fun of you for the rest of your existence because you hooked up with the weird guy- wait, what was I saying again?

Oh yeah. Sometimes you need to just satisfy your sexual appetite and in this case, I say who cares if they’re not perfect? Matters of the heart and matters of the crotch are two different things. I mean, would you seriously turn down a blow job from a less than perfect woman David?

David says: As sad as it is to say, it’s true that the wang and the brain don’t operate together.  At this stage in the game, every girl should know that if she receives a call from a guy after 10:00 PM, that it’s actually the guy’s penis calling, and not him.  And he cannot be held responsible for the actions of his penis after that time.

When you’re completely single, yeah, it’s hard to turn down a free job, especially when there’s no love on the horizon.  It’s amazing to me how easy it is to do naughty things with someone you don’t have feelings for.  But drop feelings into the equation, and it’s goosebumps and sweaty palms just to kiss that person.

All in all, you have to be realistic.  If you’re content to wait for the right person, then you should also be aware that you’ll have lots of “hard times” to get through with ole’ rosy palms.  Or a stranger.  The silver lining in all of this, though, is that when your heart is in something, it will ALWAYS feel 100x better than any encounter without emotion.

At the end of the day, is it worth it - waiting for the right one and not settling?  That’s where my money is.