HE SAID:  Mandy thinks that guys and girls who are friends cannot have sex because it has the potential to screw up the friendship.  When a guy hears that, he asks himself the question - “How did I screw this up so badly that I’m now just a friend with no chance of boning her?”  Oh wait - did I just answer the question? 

Guys don’t care about messing up friendships!  We’re guys - we know the consequences of using our dicks.  And as the gate keeper of the vagina, it’s your duty to let us know if we can or can’t use it.  Whether or not its right, we have the ability to separate our genitals from our hearts.  Alas, this is something that girls have yet to master.  So even if we do have sex with a girl who is our friend (aka - vagina in waiting), we’d have little difficulty maintaining a friendship with you just because we saw you naked.   But girls don’t operate that way, do they?

SHE SAID: Alright, now HOLD ON. First of all, I am talking about legit friendships with people, friendships that have taken years to build. When I have sex with a guy, it usually turns into one of two things: either I lose interest in that person immediately and they’ve lost their appeal (sure we can still be friends), or I start to develop feelings for them. Usually it lands in the first category.
But if I were to have sex with a really good friend, it is unlikely that I will lose interest in them since I already care about them so much. So I can only imagine that I would start to develop feelings for them. You’re right, it’s hard for women to separate their genitals from their hearts, especially with someone that they already trust and respect and are close with to begin with. 

I always believe that the longer you wait to have sex with a person, the more likely it is to become complicated. Once things start to get complicated things get weird, and nothing makes a friendship more weird than having romantic feelings after your “no strings attached” sex. Suddenly, the rules change. I mean, what is the “morning after” etiquette for hooking up with a long time friend? Think about it. Things just wouldn’t be the same. I’d rather not risk it. Do you disagree?

HE SAID:  There are two different issues here.  The first is that you shouldn’t attempt to bone girls that you’re sincerely friends with because of the rejection potential; the fear of rejection is greater than the fear of awkwardness after the fact.  I personally don’t have many girl friends whom I would consider myself close to.  So for the few I do have, I respect them and don’t intend to cross that line to begin with.  Unless of course we both decided that we were interested in something more than sex, which is a different topic altogether.

The second issue, though, is ‘letting things get weird.’  Let’s say, for instance, that you do cross that line with a close friend.  Things don’t get weird if you don’t let them.  Honesty and being forthcoming will always prevent things from ‘getting weird’ or ‘awkward.’  So if you and your friend boned, without the intention of it being more than that, then one or both of you should say ‘listen, what happened was fun, but I want you to know that I respect our friendship first and foremost.  That’s what it is and that’s what it’ll be.’ Or, if you like the person, then say so!  You risk more, in my opinion, by keeping that to yourself.  Am I right?

SHE SAID: Ok, you make a good point. It doesn’t need to get awkward if you don’t want it to. I still think that it’s likely things won’t be the same though. Either way, I am still not having sex with you. BEST FRIENDS FOREVER, DAVID! mauh-ha-ha!