In the world of dating, it’s always the ones you want, and the ones who want you.  And they’re never the same.  We’re always chasing after the people who don’t want us, and running away from the ones who do.  Which logically makes no sense.  But does anything about relationships or matters of the heart ever make sense?  Of course not.

I’ve learned that attraction isn’t all about butterflies and sparks.  It’s also about mystery.  And it has nothing to do with your looks.  In fact, a person’s overall attractiveness has a lot more to do with the mystery surrounding them than it has to do with their looks…or boobs.  That’s why an average looking girl who leaves her intentions unclear seems much more attractive, simply because you want to find out more about her to get the whole picture. 

Think about it in your own situation.  You have two guys who like you.  Here’s what you say about them.

GUY 1: “He’s so hot, but he’s so annoying! He texts me all the time.”

GUY 2: “He’s not the best looking guy, but he’s got something about him. I don’t know what it is, but I want to touch his peen.”

I’ll tell you what it is - you want your ass kissed, and he’s not kissing it!  So you want to find out what it would take to get him to kiss it.

Truth be told, though, guys are usually the worst at this.  We find something sexually appealing in almost every girl, but we’re not used to actually liking a girl.  So when we do, we have no idea how the hell we should be handling it.  So we say too much or buy you too much shit.  Or we don’t kiss you because we’re terrified that you might reject us and then you think we’re not attracted to you and then it all falls apart and then we feel stupid and then we go after whores because that’s easier.

So how do you avoid these pitfalls?  I think the most attractive girls are the ones who answer your calls and agree to go out with you, without ever having to justify it by saying a word about why.  She is who she is and that won’t change just because you said yes or no to her.  Again, actions reveal your intentions.

Oh, and she shouldn’t blow you too soon, either.  Kiss like you mean it for a while.  Build some anticipation and excitement.  So when it finally is time to touch eachother’s goodies, it’s more than sexual.

**Thanks for the idea, Laysi**