In the good ‘ole days – or at least as I imagine them – a man would squire a woman with spoken, confident intent. He would locate said woman, who was likely doing something ‘womanly,’ and say something like “I desire for you to be mine” or “let’s begin a scripted march toward marriage.”

What’s a Date?

Last week, after several weeks of ‘pawing’ around the issue, I made the decision to adopt a 2-year-old American Bulldog named Buddy. He’s a rescue pup, and he’s been through numerous hellish ordeals in his relatively short life. I’m excited to have him, but at the same time – and, as my long period of indecision would indicate – I’m nervous, too.

Dogs, Love & Commitment Issues

After a tearful, dramatic goodbye, I was single again after roughly two years in a relationship. I had just turned 22 and, as foolish as it sounds now, I felt like I’d been complicit in dealing a death sentence to my own love life. Without a doubt, it was over for me. And I had to pick up the pieces of my own broken heart, too. To call it a dramatic moment, and the gateway […]

Single in Your 20s? Get Over Yourself

From time to time, I get asked my opinion on online dating. In the past couple of weeks, though, I’ve had more people bring it up than usual. And for clarity’s sake, when they refer to “online dating,” they’re usually referring to and eHarmony. Not Facebook and Instagram. The question I get asked, of course, is “do you have anything against online dating?” And I always answer the same way: “Of course not.” Well, […]

Anti-Online Dating

In this blog, it’s easy for me to come across as a stinging, straight-talking dating opinionaire (a word I just made up), but that’s because I spend most of my time telling you what not to do. It gets harder to be candid – and convincing – when I try to speak convincingly about things you should do. Why? Because I’m kind of bad at dating. Here are four reasons why:

I’m Bad at Dating

Tomorrow morning, I will board a flight to Rochester, NY for a special occasion: the wedding of my baby cousin, Meghan (she’s 25, I’m 28 – that makes her a baby). When she got engaged, it got me a little choked up. Between her sister and brother, I’m blessed to say I’ve been extremely close with my cousins from the time they were born, and now, into our adulthood. As I prepare for this trip, […]

To Meghan & Joe – And to Love Chasers Everywhere

Today I “celebrate” the 10 year anniversary of a car accident that nearly claimed my life. I’ve reposted this story – made some improvements along the way – on the anniversary of it each of the past five years. 10 years may be overkill, though, and this will probably be the last year I re-share it. No matter how I lead up to this or what you read in my story, it’s going to seem […]

10 Years Later: April 4, 2003

Boys and girls, on a rare occasion, I like to share posts/information from friends who’ve written something that I find to be, well, compelling. My friend Amanda Gonzalez wrote the following blog, so if you love it, I can’t take credit for it. She’s a woman, in case you know any guys named Amanda and needed clarification. And I think that her story resonates quite a bit with many of the woman who’ve become readers […]

Of Mutants (and Portland)

Serious question right here: If you’re opposed to gay marriage, can you tell me why? Is it because you believe, either through lessons of culture or religion, that marriage is to be between a man and a woman? Not a fan of home makeover shows? Or do you just find it repulsive that some guys take it up the ass from other guys and some women go down on each other? Granted, I don’t have […]

The Truth About Gay Marriage Opposition