I don’t claim to be a dating expert; never have. And should my good fortunes land me in a high-ranking publication with a much larger audience, I still won’t consider myself an expert then. Which means, to some degree, I shouldn’t be disagreeing with real “experts,” right? Screw it.

Too Picky? No; You’re Not Picky Enough


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Tomorrow morning, I will board a flight to Rochester, NY for a special occasion: the wedding of my baby cousin, Meghan (she’s 25, I’m 28 – that makes her a baby). When she got engaged, it got me a little choked up. Between her sister and brother, I’m blessed to say I’ve been extremely close with my cousins from the time they were born, and now, into our adulthood. As I prepare for this trip, […]

To Meghan & Joe – And to Love Chasers Everywhere


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Today I “celebrate” the 10 year anniversary of a car accident that nearly claimed my life. I’ve reposted this story – made some improvements along the way – on the anniversary of it each of the past five years. 10 years may be overkill, though, and this will probably be the last year I re-share it. No matter how I lead up to this or what you read in my story, it’s going to seem […]

10 Years Later: April 4, 2003



Boys and girls, on a rare occasion, I like to share posts/information from friends who’ve written something that I find to be, well, compelling. My friend Amanda Gonzalez wrote the following blog, so if you love it, I can’t take credit for it. She’s a woman, in case you know any guys named Amanda and needed clarification. And I think that her story resonates quite a bit with many of the woman who’ve become readers […]

Of Mutants (and Portland)


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Serious question right here: If you’re opposed to gay marriage, can you tell me why? Is it because you believe, either through lessons of culture or religion, that marriage is to be between a man and a woman? Not a fan of home makeover shows? Or do you just find it repulsive that some guys take it up the ass from other guys and some women go down on each other? Granted, I don’t have […]

The Truth About Gay Marriage Opposition


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If you’re ever on a date with someone who starts a sentence with “I’m the kind of girl/guy who…”, run in the opposite direction. Here’s why. Mr. “I’m the kind of guy who doesn’t cheat on girls” is absolutely the kind of guy who cheats on girls. A normal guy would accept that faithfulness should more or less be expected in a relationship and just, you know, be faithful. But if he’s bringing it up, […]

I’m the Kind of Guy



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No matter how well-intentioned I aimed to be, telling Kara that I had met someone else – and that I wasn’t all that interested to begin with – was painful. It always is. We had only been on one date, though, so it wasn’t a soap opera-worthy moment. In circumstances like this, I don’t think a one-date relationship warrants a break-up conversation, but she wanted answers. Fine.

Let’s NOT Be ‘Just Friends’


A few weeks back, I dove into the friend zone – both in the blog and probably, unbeknownst to me, in real life, too. I don’t know for sure, but history indicates I probably did. But did it have to be that way? Was there a moment in time where I could’ve steered it into more than friend zone if I had wanted to? Do I even have any control over that?

Does She Like Me?


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For anyone who’s heart rate jumped upon seeing the title of this blog (ahem, Marissa), I’m remiss to inform you that this is not Part 3 of my short story. Not to worry, though; there will be a Part 3. For now, this is the blog post that I intended to write when I first brought up the subject of ‘sex on the first date.’

Sex on the First Date – To Do or Not ...



It’s a fleeting moment of conscious thought. ‘Should I go there?’ you wonder. Sure, you have your rules. They’re good rules, too. You should pull back, shouldn’t you? To hell with it. Not tonight.

Sex on the First Date – Part 2