I got this email from a friend the other day: “Some friends and I were discussing whether love is something that is supposed to just flow and come together easily, or do couples sometimes have to “fight” for it? (I’m talking about when people initially get together, not after being a relationship.) Basically I guess the question is: is love supposed to just ‘work’?”
Interestingly enough, I think the answer used to be that love should just ‘work.’ Most of the time. Now, who knows? Once social media came around, our options – or atleast our perception of our options – grew exponentially. What’s that mean? We’re more hesitant than ever to dive head-first into a relationship because, well, what if there’s something better out there? Oh, and did you see that picture that Jennifer posted?
Even if you yourself don’t have that problem, the other person might. And in that case, you do have that problem.
With that said, if two people really like each other, and they’re already beyond that phase, then ‘love’ should be easier. But that doesn’t mean they won’t have to fight for it.
In this stage, it’s about proving that you’re for real. Set the tone for how you’re going to treat the person and be consistent. The feelings may come naturally to each of you, but putting that on display to the other person may not. It becomes ‘work’ when schedules and ‘life’ get in the way of how you treat the other person. In essence, that may provide the answer to the question.
The feelings may be easy at first, but the display of those feelings always takes a bit more effort. Never assume that the other person knows what you feel. Show them – and show them often. It may not be easy, but you can make it look easy.
David Berry is a Miami-based copywriter who has delivered writing solutions for a wide set of clients with a diverse range of needs. From books (fiction and non-fiction) to blogs, feature stories and everything else in between, he’s written for restaurants and retail clients, hotel chains, cosmetics companies, universities and more, as well as magazines, Fortune 500 companies and numerous entrepreneurs.
Berry has an MBA from Florida International University and draws passion for his craft from a wide base of interests, as he’s also a NASM certified personal trainer, former stand-up comedian, and volunteer, having won Miami Children’s Hospital’s 2011 Volunteer of the Year award while raising more than $100,000 for the hospital’s Radio Lollipop program.