Too Picky? No; You’re Not Picky Enough

Too Picky? No; You’re Not Picky Enough

I don’t claim to be a dating expert; never have. And should my good fortunes land me in a high-ranking publication with a much larger audience, I still won’t consider myself an expert then. Which means, to some degree, I shouldn’t be disagreeing with real “experts,” right? Screw it.

Because anytime I read a dating article that says one of the reasons you’re not in a serious relationship is because “your expectations are unrealistic,” I wish I could call the writer directly and say “so how’s your sexless, loveless marriage going for you?”

Of course, the articles (there are many) always reference the same arbitrary “things” that people should stop being unrealistic about. Namely, their height, hair or eye color.

Yeah, you’re right, “expert.” The reason us singles are off trying to figure it all out is because our would-be companions got a bad haircut and took out their colored contacts. Too picky? Maybe if 50+% of the population had actually taken the time to be picky, they’d still be married. And for the other 50% that is married? A lot of them probably hate each other. And they wish they’d been pickier, too.

No, single people aren’t being too picky. If the failures of our single friends and our friends in relationships are any indication, they’re not being picky enough.


David Berry is a Miami-based copywriter who has delivered writing solutions for a wide set of clients with a diverse range of needs. From books (fiction and non-fiction) to blogs, feature stories and everything else in between, he’s written for restaurants and retail clients, hotel chains, cosmetics companies, universities and more, as well as magazines, Fortune 500 companies and numerous entrepreneurs.

Berry has an MBA from Florida International University and draws passion for his craft from a wide base of interests, as he’s also a NASM certified personal trainer, former stand-up comedian, and volunteer, having won Miami Children’s Hospital’s 2011 Volunteer of the Year award while raising more than $100,000 for the hospital’s Radio Lollipop program.

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